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15 Things to Give Up to Make Your Life Easier and Happier

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download (11)Stressed? Are you dealing with great pain right?

Is it giving you too much suffering that you almost want to give up?

Why are you still holding on to the things that cause all this stress? It is time to give up on all those things and embrace change.

Here are 15 things, which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier.

1. GIVE UP YOUR NEED FOR CONTROL
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

2. GIVE UP ON BLAME
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

3. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

4. GIVE UP YOUR SELF-DEFEATING SELF-TALK
Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

 “The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. GIVE UP YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
About what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. GIVE UP COMPLAININGimages (17)
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. GIVE UP THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS
Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. GIVE UP YOUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE
Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.

“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

10. GIVE UP LABELS

Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. GIVE UP ON YOUR FEARSoriginal
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.

“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES
Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. GIVE UP THE PAST
I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. GIVE UP ATTACHMENT
This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. GIVE UP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS
download (12)Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

Is it Time to Move On?

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downloadShould I stay or should I go? Should I buy or save? Should I forgive or forget? Should I move or not? The shoulds become a thirsty internal craving as we try to process the best outcome for our life.

The problem? In doing this, we often hold onto what no longer works.

Life is a balance of holding on and letting go. We strive to make the right choice but how do we know when it is truly time to let go and move on?

Romantic relationships, jobs, even places we live have an expiration date. Sometimes we hold on to things that aren’t working out of fear we won’t find something better.

How Do You Know When You Need to Move On?

How do you know? The truth is you just do. It is that simple. My guide advises that there is a reason for the feelings we have in our hearts, and when it is time for that to change, it just does. This means we don’t have to struggle. We don’t have to dive into another relationship, another job, another anything to make ourselves move on. When it is time to move on, we will just feel it and know it. The organic process of healing just happens.

hinh-anh-dep-ve-tinh-yeu(15)__28185_zoomWhy Do You Still Think About Them?

If you still think about them, it doesn’t mean you’re crazy. You can stop asking that question. You are not crazy. Up in the higher realms, in the invisible world of love and energy, we are all connected. When we at California Psychics talk about a strong spiritual connection, this is what we mean. My guide is more exact and says this is about a level of recognition that we can see through our special other—that there are higher, greater levels of reality. We can reach and realize those levels when we are with them and that is what makes our experience with them so profound. Further, we have memories like lines of electrical current that light up every time we think about that special someone or when they think about us! This is what I am reading when people ask me about their special someone. I feel the lines of energy running, and I can do that because I am connected to you and you have let me see the higher realms through you!

What Do You Do if You’re Struggling?

My guide often advises many callers not to think of it as moving on, but rather as moving ahead. The problem is that when we are holding onto someone, we are not living in the present moment. All of our energy travels back to the past or in “what might have been” or to the future or “what will be.” That means we are not living in the present, and when we hold onto someone or something so hard, it is like a closed fist—nothing can get in and nothing can get out. In other words, nothing can change—and that includes things getting better. Learn to discipline your mind to focus on the day and take time to remind yourself what your dreams were before this person or situation entered your life. This will help you become more magnetic to happier experiences and alter your reality to produce more wanted results.

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Be Gentle With Yourself

All of this is to say, be gentle with yourself. There are times when we let these connections overwhelm us, and we can come to know whether that is happening by how well we are taking care of our daily lives and our well-being. It is an amazing experience to meld together with another and our lives are a tapestry of these special moments, but getting locked into the past is like putting a “do not disturb” sign on the new, wonderful experiences that are happening to us. Remember, though, we should be kind to ourselves and just do a little bit better each day! Be well!

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