Some disagreements with others cannot be resolved right away. You might even feel that you don’t want to be around that person or that you want to stay angry and mad about what was said. This conflict can come from a family member, friend, co-worker, or others. You must learn how to deal with unresolved conflicts.
Inner Conflict
Having a disagreement with someone might be uncomfortable for you. But it doesn’t mean that you can avoid all conflicts. It also doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you or that you have an inner conflict.
Take time to consider how the conflict left you feeling, and don’t hide your feelings. Everyone has a right to express what they are thinking and feeling, but how you do that is what makes you who you are.
Once you look at the conflict you had, notice if you were responsible for making things worse. Be truthful about your role in it and see if you need to improve your conflict management.
Co-Worker Conflicts
If you have a co-worker that you feel is always picking on you and putting everything you do on the chopping block, there is a chance you might have conflicts with this person. Maybe they remind you of someone you felt picked on continuously from your past.
You need to figure out if you don’t like that person because of how they make you feel now or if you have unresolved past conflicts that you need to fix. Take time to talk to this person and show them how they make you think but also recognize what is going on inside of yourself.
Let Thing’s Go
When you get into a conflict with someone, and you go to try to solve it, if it isn’t solvable, let it go. Choose not to be angry anymore and let go of any hurt that is associated with it. You have to let your heart heal.
Be patient with yourself as you let things go, and know that this can take time. Let go of the anger and the hurt, and you will see that this helps you feel better. Don’t avoid the conflict because this means that you aren’t taking any action to solve it. Surrendering and taking action is a choice that you have and that you make to resolve the problem.
Empathy
Have empathy for yourself and others. Know that when you resolve a conflict, you are actively engaging in the situation so that it can be fixed. When you have empathy for yourself and others, you will see that you can see things from a different perspective. You can help others get past the same hurt you are feeling.
Final Thoughts
If you are hurt by someone close to you, like a friend or a family member, it might take longer to get over. You still have to learn to move on and heal so that you can feel peace in your life. Set boundaries from here on out so you don’t let other people run over you.
Remember, you can’t control something that someone else does to you, but you can control how you behave toward it and how you move forward. Don’t let unresolved conflicts ruin your life; live in peace.
The emphasis on self-reflection and empathy aligns well with modern psychological principles. Understanding your own role in the conflict can indeed pave the way for better resolution strategies.
Ah yes, because resolving a conflict is as simple as deciding not to be angry anymore. If only life worked that way.
While the advice about empathy and inner reflection is solid, what if the other party is entirely unreasonable? This piece fails to address scenarios where the opposition is persistently uncooperative.
I guess next time I have an argument, I’ll just tell myself, ‘Be patient and let it go.’ Should work like magic, right?
Easier said than done. The advice seems somewhat idealistic. Not all conflicts can be neatly resolved by ‘letting them go’ or having empathy.
Just let go of your anger and voila! You’ll be at peace. Sounds like a one-size-fits-all solution to a problem that’s far more complex.
There is merit in combining empathy with self-reflection. It’s not foolproof, but it does provide a framework for managing unresolved conflict. Real emotional work is still needed.
Exactly, managing emotions and conflicts is a continuous process, not a one-time fix. It requires constant effort and sometimes professional help.
This is a very insightful take on how to manage conflicts, particularly those that are unavoidable. It’s essential to reflect on our feelings and work towards resolution. Nicely articulated.