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How Can We Introduce Sprituality To Someone?

           A lot of people enter a world of spirituality from the very moment that they’re born into this world. This may be because their families are already religious, have strong beliefs or may already have strong ties to the spiritual world. If someone you love and care about is curious about spirituality and everything it entails, then there is a way to introduce them to this diverse world without overwhelming them with too much information at one time. Depending on the type of spiritual realms and area they are interested in, there are a variety of ways to introduce someone to spirituality without overwhelming them.

New Age Shops

If your loved one is interested in finding out more about angels, spirits, karma, the afterlife and dream interpretation, stop by a New Age Shop and allow them to browse around. Many people do not know that many of these stores exist in most large cities. Numerous people find that once they enter one of these shops, they don’t leave until hours later, so be prepared to spend some time if your loved one takes a great interest.

Visit Religious Venues

If church and religion is on the mind of your loved one, take them to a few different kind of churches, temples or religious establishments. If they are searching for more understanding, acceptance and a higher power, allow them to get to know each form of religion and make their choice from there.

Watch Movies That Encourage Spirituality

Whether your friend or family member has a new interest in the power of nature and spiritual forces, karma, or if they are drawn to Buddhist practices and the idea of spiritual enlightenment, introduce them to some spiritual movies. Spiritual movies have a great way of inspiring us to try harder, be better individuals and help us to believe that there is a force more powerful than ourselves out there. Movies such as The Five People You Meet in Heaven, The Peaceful Warrior, Conversations with God, What Dreams May Come, Pay It Forward, The Celestine Prophecy and even the popular movie The Secret can give someone many things to think about and consider when it comes to spirituality.

Take Them To A Meditation Class

If you want to start out slow, it might be best to take your friend or family member to a meditation class of some sort. Find a class where they light candles, play soft music or soothing guidance tapes and completely relax. If you can do it at home with them, it is even better as it offers even fewer distractions.

One of the first steps to becoming spiritual is to connect with yourself on a deeper level. Most people choose to enter the spiritual world of understanding when they are searching for answers to their own lives, or the meaning of life in general. Avoid overwhelming them and do not push any of your own spiritual practices onto them. Allow them to journey through the spiritual world at their own pace and choose the practices that best suit their unique and individual lifestyle.

Breakup Survival 101 For Each Sun Sign

Each sun sign copes with a breakup in different ways. Some fearlessly march on, insisting that they weren’t wounded by the situation. Others bury their heads under the covers until they realize that isn’t really what they want in life.

But every sun sign survives and learns from the experience and moves on. Here is how each sun sign can use their talents and address their vulnerabilities to make the most of their lives and their future relationships:

Aries
You are probably the sign that would be one of the last to admit that the breakup was painful. In fact, you may have initiated it, after seeing where things were going. While we applaud your fearlessness, it’s good to acknowledge that the loss of someone who was close to you hurts. Take time to feel the loss in a real way before moving on to your future.

Taurus
Letting go of love and security isn’t your strong suit. Out of pride, you may pretend that it doesn’t matter – and you have well-deserved pride. People find you desirable, you know it, so who cares about that person who left? Actually, you do. It’s good to look at what did and didn’t work in the relationship so that your next love experience will be more fulfilling.

Gemini
You’re good at chatting about your breakup. “Big deal – I thought it was just a fling.” But when you go home alone, it’s not that easy. You really cared about the person you lost in an intangible way. They added something special to your life. Find a way to make friends with the person in the future, and add their contribution to your portfolio of life.

Cancer
You are the sign that is deeply wounded by the loss of someone. It’s personal and emotionally real. The good news is that your emotions pass like a rushing mountain stream, and you see what it means. You are still “you” – a treasure – no matter what that partner didn’t understand. Feel it, shake it off and move on.

Leo
You know how amazing you are and how much you have to offer. That former partner who didn’t get your gift doesn’t define you in the slightest. You can feel how powerful your presence is to others and you know how to use that. You’ll find someone more aware of you very soon.

Virgo
You might be the person initiating that recent breakup. It’s unusual for your dedicated style, but your wisdom offered a glimpse at a greater future for you. If that wasn’t the case, the result is the same. You’re freed and reaching out in personally wonderful ways that you never recognized in the past.

Libra
You’re used to breakups because you expect perfection in your love affairs and that seldom happens. Then you turn it inward and think it was your fault when things don’t work out. Relax and be happy that you are that kind, beautiful and talented. Your next love is just around the corner, and there’s a good chance that this is “the one.”

Scorpio
You’ve had some recent reality checks in your relationship, and they were disappointing. Feeling this in the depths of your soul, it brings up unidentifiable relationship pains from the past. Find the original relationship wound in your psyche so that you can let go. You’ll move forward with a freedom that you’ve never known before.

Sagittarius
In the past, you were relaxed about relationships coming and going – such is life. But this loss is huge. You feel it in the core of your being and your usual light-hearted attitude isn’t working. Examine your dreams about who you want to be and what this person actually meant to you. Then realize that you have all those qualities within yourself. You can handle this.

Capricorn
As the person who usually builds truly constructive and important relationships, you’ve been rather shocked at your ability to “blow up” things that are no longer needed over the past few years. Whether it looked like it was your partner who created the breakup or your own actions, you’re really looking to make a better future. Watch the sunrise tomorrow. You have so much to offer.

Aquarius
Your career and how you project yourself into the world have been foremost in your needs and wants recently. Your partner probably didn’t recognize what you needed to move forward in life and to be all that your heart knows is true. Your next partner is out there in the mist. You’ll know them when you see that they “get” you.

Pisces
Life has been so confusing lately that your relationship may have slipped through your fingers in the midst of everything. If that person was meant to be with you, they’ll be back. If not, the next person will be more attuned to your needs and less involved with their own ego. You are the magic they need, so stay with your dreams and ideals.

Stop Being Complacent And Break Free

       Just  close your eyes and think back to a time in your life when you had a strong desire for something that left you plotting and scheming for a way to achieve your dreams. Were you content with thoughts or were you driven to action that pushed you to the limits of your comfort zone to realize your dreams? 

While a certain amount of safety and security is necessary in life, it can often come at an undisclosed price—complacency. Complacency is often disguised as contentment and is what happens when you abandon your ambition and stop challenging yourself to improve. When you reach a level of complacency and settle for what you have, even if it doesn’t make you happy, you are preventing yourself from reaching for the stars and realizing your full potential.

Breaking the spell of complacency can be difficult, but if you overcome your inertia, you open the door to surprising yourself and transforming your life! When you feel the creep of complacency lulling you to sleep, embrace these motivating activities to recharge your energy:

Surround Yourself by Inspiration

Create a wall or journal filled with works of art, images or words that inspire you. By turning to this collage of inspiration, you will be reminding yourself that you have work to do.

Rediscover Your Passion

Carve out time in your schedule to pursue your passion once again. Whether your passion is fitness, creative endeavors or community service, put it on your calendar and plan on getting involved.

Challenge Yourself

Once the initial spark of interest is gone, add a new twist to your life and see where it takes you. By mixing it up in this way, you can stay true to your passion while expanding your horizons at the same time.

Share Your Skills

There’s no better way to reawaken your passion and interests than by sharing them with someone new. By becoming a teacher or mentor, you will be returning to the roots of what you love, and be refreshed by the energy created when you pass along your love of a subject to a new student.

Many areas of your life are prone to complacency, and very often these are the areas of your life where there is most to lose if you succumb to inertia and apathy. Whether you are settling for less in your career or your relationship, you have little to lose and everything to gain when you decide to take that first step in breaking free from complacency.

In order to live a fully realized life, it’s important that you remain alert to new opportunities and ways to grow and improve. If you give into these feelings of complacency, you risk the career you’ve always wanted or a close relationship with the love of your life. By reconnecting with your passion and desires, you will be able to convert the energy of desire into action and transform your life.

Do You Want To Be A Modern Witch?

    Are you secretly wanting to try witchcraft but you’re holding yourself not to? The very first thing you need to know  is that witchcraft is not a religion, though many would have it otherwise. There are branches of witchcraft that incorporate religious practices, but it’s a matter of personal choice. Yet, witchcraft is most definitely a spiritual path and it can be as individual as you are.

There are no set rules, yet there are certain guidelines that every good witch should follow – the main one being that you harm no one in your practice of the craft.

How to Be a Witch – Stage 1

This beginning stage of learning witchcraft is very slow and gentle, there’s no point leaping in, casting spells all over the place if you don’t understand how it works. You could get yourself into real trouble that way. It’s not like it is on TV or in the movies. So the first step in your witch journey is to think about what it means to you to be a witch. You need to understand what it is that draws you to the craft.

  • You might have always felt this way, sort of ‘otherworldly’, at odds with the fast-paced life we all live.
  • Being a witch feels right to you, as though you stepped onto the right path.
  • You have an affinity with animals and nature.
  • You suspect you might have a level of psychic skills, or at the very least, you have well-developed intuition.
  • You notice that your body, moods, tastes, natural rhythms seem to coincide with the changes in the seasons.

So take the time to explore why you feel this way. It’s important to distinguish between being attracted to the craft because it makes you feel special, and being drawn to it because you have no other choice; it’s who you are.

Researching Witchcraft – Stage 2

Witchcraft is a huge topic. There are so many traditions that may or may not fit you. So this stage is where you start researching and reading. There are so many books and websites that it is hard to recommend just one. Look at books by modern authors such as Melusine Draco – she has a really good series on witchcraft in all environments and situations. Christopher Penczac is also a renowned authority on the spiritual aspects of witchcraft.

Don’t be overwhelmed by all the information out there, and don’t take one person’s opinion as being the only way. You have to gradually put it together yourself. This is where keeping a journal will come in useful. You can build up a framework for yourself, as long as you understand that your beliefs and perspective will change as you go along. Read up on the many paths and traditions. For instance, you might decide that Wicca is the way for you – Wicca is a recognized religion and involves a set way of practicing, depending on which branch of Wicca you follow. Wicca is mainly, but not always, centered on training groups that mean you begin at the beginning and progress through a series of initiations. It’s structured and it may be all you want and expected. On the other hand, it can be full of dogma and rules, so if you are not that kind of person, it might not be for you.

If you feel that you’d prefer a more free and easy way of witching, then perhaps you’d rather be a ‘solitary’? One who practices the craft in his or her own way. And, being a solitary doesn’t mean that you can’t join up with other witches for events, rituals and general chat.

Then there are all the ‘formal’ traditions, such as Celtic Witchcraft or Scandinavian Witchcraft. Perhaps a Little research into your own family origins would help you decide which tradition calls to you?

Beginning Your Practice – Stage 3

If you have chosen any kind of group or coven to get started in, you don’t have to worry about this stage as you will be guided all the way. You will be treated gently and given instruction and teaching.

Should you have decided to practice on your own, then again, take it gently. First of all, you will need to learn how to meditate. Meditation may seem at odds with your idea of being a witch, but it isn’t. Witches have been getting in touch with their subconscious since the dawn of time. In some old British traditions like Cornish Witchcraft, it was, and is, called ‘becoming’.

Meditation helps you to connect with the life force of the universe and the wisdom you have deep in your soul. It is the basis of spell work, healing, divination and many other aspects of witchcraft. For example, a witch who wants to heal someone, will put herself into a trance state to connect with that individual, once she has reached a deep state of relaxation and ‘becoming’, she will carry out her healing ritual, which may only consist of sending energy, or it might be a full blown ritualistic spell.

There are some experts who offers a free introductory course, that involves meditative practice. It will give you an idea where and how to begin. The lessons are delivered weekly, so you can’t go too fast.

Living the Witchy Life – Stage 4

By this time you will have read lots, perhaps feel a little overwhelmed, but you know that you are on the right path. If you haven’t already, it’s time to delve in deeper. With one of your trusty books as a guide, try your first spell. Keep it simple.

You don’t really need any of the tools and accoutrements of witchcraft I order to practice it, but they door help set the atmosphere. Fortunately many of them can be gathered for free, bought cheaply, or made.

  • Collect some unusual shells, stones, pebbles, feathers, and twigs.
  • Look out for a likely wand – hopefully, you’ll find one that has broken off naturally from a tree branch. If you feel you need to take it directly from the tree, then ask the tree for permission and remember to thank it once you have cut it.
  • Small candles and tea lights are considered important elements of any ritual by many.
  • Salt is also a component of certain rituals.

Continue your studies. Witches never stop learning, so find out about the Wheel of the Year, moon phases, healing, divination, etc. It’s possible that you will discover a path within the craft that holds your attention. It’s all very exciting and you are right at the beginning of a beautiful adventure.

Right Way To Reduce Stress

 It’s been almost 2 years that Americans have been on a political roller coaster and leaves many feeling frazzled. Aside from politics, we’re flooded with a plethora of bad news almost everyday so it’s no surprise that many feel anxious, depressed, and depleted. Psychology Today calls this the “stress epidemic.” If you’re struggling to cope, take the following steps to help reduce stress and anxiety.

Cut Down On Social Media

Seriously, stop the addiction. If you’re tired of all the negativity flowing through social media yet cannot explain why you can’t stop scrolling, it’s because you’re no better than a drug addict is. Checking social media for likes and comments releases the feel-good hormone dopamine and FOMO (fear of missing out) makes us obsessively check news feeds. It’s time to go cold turkey or at least drastically cut your screen time. You can’t get stressed about what you don’t know.

Maintain Strong Social Connections

In times of uncertainty, drawing on family and friends to keep sane becomes important. Social connections help negate some of the effects of stressful events. As long as conversations avoid negative topics, spending time with friends and family is nurturing and good for your well-being. It helps release the hormones serotonin and oxytocin that counter the damaging effect of the stress hormone cortisol.

Practice Self-Care

It’s all too easy to forget to look after yourself. The demands of daily life are exacting. Add to that sleepless nights worrying about how current events will affect that life, and you’ll soon run yourself ragged. Things like eating well, exercising, and doing things you enjoy go a long way to feeling balanced. It could be something as indulgent as a massage or something more unconventional like keeping up with your horoscope or online psychic readings.

Learn to Meditate

There are countless articles written about the amazing effects meditation has on body and mind. It’s not new information. And it’s not just mumbo-jumbo; research and science back it up. Meditation practitioners have known for years that meditation lowers stress, reduces the risk of disease, sharpens the mind, and just generally makes you relaxed and happy. Now the scientists agree. In a world that seems to have gone mad, meditation will help you cope.

Focus on What You Can Control

A feeling of impending doom about things we can’t control often causes stress. This is particularly true when it comes to events beyond our control. The scale of political and world events is so big that we feel overwhelmed and fear the future. It may prompt you to dial the psychic hotline for answers. Bring your focus down to what you can control. Worried about rising medical costs? Create a savings account for medical needs. If you feel strongly about an issue, get involved in some form of social action like protests or campaigns. Taking decisive action helps us regain some control.

We can’t control all that happens in the stressful world we live in but we can control our own personal world. Fear, anger, and despair are emotions that cause stress levels to skyrocket. Finding a balance and being happy in spite of all the doom of gloom is possible.

Looking To Your Wonderful Life

    We would sometimes feel a great sadness and darkness in our lives… that painful feeling that you are along and everything is falling apart.  While it may be somewhat easier to step out of the darkness and reclaim positivity after one event, it gets harder and harder as the events keep piling up. You may be able to deal with a job loss, but if there is a cancer diagnosis after the job loss followed in quick succession by the death of a loved one, an unaffordable car repair and other hurdles that life has a way of placing in front of you, it gets more and more difficult to find light and meaning in your life.

When you find yourself drowning in a sea of seemingly endless sorrows, these four reminders may renew your positive outlook so that you can find meaning in your life, despite everything that is happening.

Reminder #1: You are a survivor

If you wake up to a fresh new day filled with its mix of obligations, responsibilities and undiscovered delights, it means that you’ve survived to live yet another day. From childhood scrapes and stubbed toes to heartbreak and financial struggles, every single thing that has happened to you has made you a stronger and wiser person with the strength to survive, if not thrive.

Reminder #2: Adversity builds strength

The natural world is full of reminders that struggle and adversity often leads to strength and greatness. Butterflies emerge from their chrysalis only to struggle to beat their wings. It is this struggle that dries the wings, giving the butterfly the strength needed to take off in flight. Remember that you are like the butterfly struggling to fly. Each hardship that you face is an opportunity to strengthen your resolve and learn the lessons needed for what comes next on your life’s path. From the time you were a newborn learning to lift up your head to the moment, you have been strengthened by the adversity that you face.

Reminder #3: We are a part of the natural world

The immense beauty and intricate balance of the natural world is a part of who you are and you, as an individual, contribute to the beauty and mystery of life on Earth. The sun is at the perfect distance to sustain life without burning us or freezing us; the oceans tides are in perfect sync with the moon and the human body is a wonder to behold in and of itself. Sit in nature, listen to your heartbeat and remind yourself that you are a part of this beautiful world.

Reminder #4: You make a difference in the world

Your presence here on Earth, in your life, makes a difference to someone. Sometimes a person’s contributions to the world are dramatic with a far-reaching impact that changes the course of history. However, it is far more common for you to make a small difference in the world. The key is that you never know how your seemingly small action can make a difference that sends ripples out into the world. Never underestimate your power to make a difference with a smile, kind word, generous act or blessing of forgiveness. Your life has worth and you do matter.

In times of darkness and great adversity, it can be a struggle to remind yourself that your life has meaning. Prepare yourself for these times by reminding yourself daily that you are a survivor, that you are strong, that you are a part of the world and you make a difference.

Do Not Be A Puppet: Use Your Free Will

   You have a free will so it means that you can do whatever you want when you want. So, why not use it? Theoretically that’s true, but in actuality, from the cradle to the old folks’ home, others do have domain over your schedule and your life to a certain degree. But not everyone should get that power. Sometimes you have to learn how to keep others from running your life—because it’s not their life, it’s your life.

Influence & Circumstances

Free will aside, your parents and your teachers run your life when you’re young. When you get older and get a job, it dictates the hours you work and how much you get paid. And if you’re a spouse and/or a parent, you know all too well how you have to sacrifice your time to accommodate others. These are circumstances. They exist in your life to give you guidance, to help you become a thoughtful/mindful person and to give you a sense of what’s possible. These circumstances also help you teach others, like your children, the same things. For the most part though, these circumstances are good—you learn and grow from the experiences they sire, and you find ways to balance it all. And in those moments when you get a break—your lunch hour or vacation, you can let free will reign.

And then there are influences. Influences are avoidable, and often include the people who try to run your life, but shouldn’t. This is the first place place to try and break free by exercising your free will. Here are the people who influence you, but shouldn’t:

1. The Drama Queens
These are the people in your life who always have an emergency and it’s always at the most inconvenient time for you. They will take over your life and your time as much as you let them, but when you need someone to talk to they’re too busy or too hard to find.

2. The Energy Vampires
The friends, family and coworkers who exist on constant negative energy, they want to suck you dry of every ounce of empathy you have and make you just like them. If they succeed in crossing you over to the dark side, you can say goodbye to all that lovely free will/free time you used to enjoy. You’ll be consumed with constant negative thoughts about everything and anyone. Also, just like the drama queens, energy vampires have a knack for picking the most inopportune times to feed off of your attention.

3. The Dream Crushers
These bad influence experts will try to convince you that putting time into making your dreams come true is just a waste of time. Dreams, they will try to tell you, aren’t real life. Let these people know that you’re in charge of running your own life, not them, and if that includes making a few mistakes, then so be it. Dream crushers are not only rude, but selfish; they would rather see you out being silly with them instead of home studying or working to make a dream or goal come true. Exercise that free will of yours and choose to ignore the dream crushers—you’ll likely get the last laugh.

4. The Needy Greedies
If you’re trying to figure out how not to let others run your life, then see if you have one of these needy people in your life. They’re the needy greedies and it’s all about them. They fully expect you to drop everything to help them because, well, they’re more important. You can tell them that you’re planning a romantic dinner with your boyfriend, and they’ll find a way to have a crisis just at that precise time. Just imagine music, candlelight and the two of you sitting on the couch listening to the latest crisis in the needy greedy’s life. Dinner is cold, the mood is ruined and best of all, they will have miraculously recovered the next day and you won’t hear from them until the next crisis arises.

5. The People Pleaser
This is you. If you’re giving up what you want to do in order to please someone else, then you have effectively let others run your life and essentially given your power over to someone who isn’t you—that should never happen. If you’re going out of your way to please others and not paying attention to your own wants and needs, then this is all on you. Don’t give your power away, and don’t let others run your life and control your existence.

Anyone or anything that is taking up your time without your invitation is controlling you, robbing you of your energy and your free will. If you allow it, then you have no one to blame but yourself. However, you don’t have to let it keep happening. If you want to live your own life, you have to learn how to run your life.

Are You Having A Hard Time Choosing The Best?

    Do you feel so confuse with a lot of choices in the table? Do you envision so many possibilities and that makes it impossible to decide? If you’ve answered yes it could mean that your ability to manifest is stronger than you think. But you don’t have to be worried by these infinite choices. I’m here to tell you that you’re in control!

Schedule Some Downtime

Take a moment to schedule some downtime, dedicated to managing your potential. Make an actual appointment with yourself where you say, for example, “Between 8 and 9 a.m. I will sit and narrow down all my amazing choices.” When your appointment begins, go to your place of quiet meditation and contemplation. One hour on this may seem long and difficult, but it is certainly less time than carrying uncertainty 24 hours a day.

With this practice, you should have pen and paper. Some like to have pen and paper that is only reserved for spiritual use—perhaps cleansed or blessed in their own way. Be sure to have a gentle smile on your face and use this mindful practice to narrow down your possibilities:

1. Breathe Deeply for Several Minutes 
Focus your mind on a simple word like “Calm,” or “Peace,” or “Love.” Then repeat the word slowly, aloud or inside. If your mind wanders away, just bring it back to the word you’ve chosen.

2. Write Out Your Different Choices
Perhaps you have more than one lover who wishes to be with you, and maybe you want to choose one. Or perhaps you’re considering different locations to live and work. Maybe the right choice for you is about life purpose most of all. Be sure to also leave space on the paper for ideas.

3. Eliminate the Definite Noes
Until you see it on paper, you might not know that something is a waste of your time to consider. Therefore, you need to clear the debris so you don’t have to waste any more of your mental energy.

4. Weigh the Pros and Cons 
Take what’s left on your list and weigh the pros and cons. Ask yourself what works and what doesn’t work. How will each choice impact your current life? This activity may help you decide right away. If not, it will certainly help you eliminate more choices.

5. Move Your Awareness to Your Heart
Place your hand on your heart to keep focused there. Then look at what is left on your list. Also ask yourself, “Is this what I’ve asked for?”

6. Feel What Moves Your Heart
If you take some deep breaths, you may be able to feel what moves the heart. Therefore, you could be feeling what you want in a new way.

7. Let Your Answers Come Through Your Heart
What excites you and what makes you feel passionate? What inspires you? Do you get an electric jolt when you think of certain possibilities and what feels good to you? There is nothing more important than feeling good right now.

8. Breathe, Acknowledge, and Accept
At this point you may know what you want, but do you also know how to follow through with your desire? There are always things to think about, including other people’s feelings, and certainly all of the what ifs, fears, and anxieties. This is where guidance comes in. A trusted friend, a reading with a life path psychic like me, or input from other sources will add needed strength. You are never alone!

There Will Always Be Infinite Choices

There will always be infinite choices in every moment of your life. However, you need to learn to see them. If you have chosen a particular direction, what follows also becomes fate. But, you are still free to change course at any time. You are driving the bus!

The Heart Wants to Direct the Mind

The practice I’ve outlined here is merely a template. You can take or leave any of these eight ideas as you decide. The main point is to come to acknowledge your heart and listen to those feelings. Your heart actually wants to direct your mind! Do this meditation anytime, and certainly make it your own. Soon, trusting the heart will become second nature.

Beware Of Frenemies

        Are you sure that all your friends are real and loyal to you? Ooops! think again… We all have one person in our life who rubs us the wrong way on the regular basis, yet we still grab a morning coffee with them (weekdays only) or chat with them over cocktails at happy hour (in group settings, of course). Yes! We’re talking about a good old-fashioned frenemy. And while the relationship may seem like a no-win situation, studies have shown that frenemies can actually be a good thing.

Having a love-hate relationship with a close colleague benefits you at work by promoting creative problem solving and more accurate decision making. Plus, when you don’t see eye-to-eye with someone, you’re more likely to put yourself in their shoes and look at the situation in a new light. But let’s not forget — that’s easier said than done. So we caught up with Meredith Silversmith, a licensed marriage and family therapist, as well as the co-founder and clinical director of Nassau Wellness in Garden City, NY, to help us navigate the frenemy waters.

1. Set and maintain boundaries.

“While you may spend some positive time together, it’s important not to be lulled into a false sense of security. This is a relationship that, even with its benefits, could become damaging,” warns Meredith. “Set boundaries around topics of conversation, personal information you share and how much time you spend together.” If it’s a work frenemy, consider keeping the friendly chatting in the office so you don’t open up after a few happy hour cocktails.

2. Use the rivalry to your benefit.

If you keep the competition healthy, it can be good for your career and personal pursuits. “Don’t get bogged down feeling negative or overwhelmed by feelings of competition — use them to your advantage. Get motivated to work harder and strive to improve. A little challenge is good for you,” Meredith says.

3. Keep your cool.

You can bet that sometimes you’ll face challenging or frustrating situations — opposite your frenemy. “Do your best to not react emotionally. Take a deep breath, take a walk or do whatever you need to do to continue to present yourself in a calm, composed way. You don’t want your frenemy to know when they’ve gotten to you,” says Meredith. Your frenemy mantra: Don’t give ’em the satisfaction!

4. Don’t gossip. 

Meredith advises to stay professional and keep the “enemy” part of your relationship under wraps. “One way to be sure to stir things up (in a not-so-good way) is to talk about your frenemy with colleagues. If you want to thrive in this relationship, hold back. It’s easy to jump into the negative talk, but it won’t help things go smoothly between you two.”

5. Keep your friends and your frenemies separate.

 “These are two very different types of relationships and it’s tough when they merge. You’re not going to be as open and honest with a frenemy as you are with a friend, so having them in the same place at the same time can be a really sticky situation. Do your best to keep the worlds from colliding.” Amen!

6. Seek for Psychic Help 

It is quite hard to spot your frenemies at times specially if they are really good at wearing their mask. ALl you need to do is make that phone call to a psychic and they can figure out if you have frenemies who are waiting to destroy you.

The Whole Journey Of A Man

          Birth and death are the two journeys that bookend a man’s life. However, there are many other journeys he should take in between that develop his character and help him find himself. The journeys he takes should also help him find his bliss and they should be satisfying and worthwhile. To have that kind of well-rounded life, here are six journeys a man should take.

1. The Journey to Find Himself
A man who doesn’t know who he is defines himself by his profession, his material goods and how much money he makes. He is not sure of his identity, so he dives into his work to the point of being a workaholic—it’s the one thing that gives him purpose. But a man is so much more than what he does for a living. In order to find himself, he needs to discover what he has to offer to the world, to his partner, and what kind of legacy he wishes to leave behind.

2. The Journey to Help Others Achieve Their Dream
Along the path to collecting his fame and fortune, a man will be challenged to be the best at his academics, career, and relationships. But the victories found within these challenges are not nearly as satisfying as helping others achieve their own dreams. Self-focus may make a man feel as if he is above all others, but that leaves him with the final outcome of being alone. The bragging rights of being the last man standing are not nearly as satisfying as finding relevance and purpose by impacting other people’s lives.

3.The Journey to Focus on What Truly Matters 
If a man focuses on vanity and pride, he isn’t focusing on what truly matters. Sure, his friends, family, and the media have their own opinions on what course a man should take, but that doesn’t mean he has to entertain them. Instead, he should focus on what really matters—trust, intimacy and worthwhile relationships. These truly matter because of how they make a man feel.

4. The Journey to Understand Others 
Compromising is better than winning an argument. It’s better for a man to have a better understanding of the other person’s point of view, rather than focusing on what makes him right. Therefore, he should listen to what they have to say and try to understand what makes their view so different from his own. He may not end up with a friend, but at least he won’t end up with an adversary. This is especially important when it comes to his relationships with family, friends, coworkers and significant others.

5. The Journey Towards Being Faithful
For many, cheating is not just being intimate with someone behind their partner’s back. Cheating is also not listening, not understanding and not satisfying a partner’s needs. And to be a cheater, a man doesn’t have to cheat with an intimate partner. He can cheat with his job, his car and his friends. So, the best way to maintain an intimate connection and remain faithful is to communicate openly and spend time together. A man should ask his partner how they feel, and if they aren’t feeling great, he should ask what he can do to help them feel better.

6. The Journey to Discover His Bliss 
Discovering his bliss is more than discovering who he is. A man’s bliss is what he is most passionate about, whether it is music, painting or another hobby. It could be a natural-born gift, or something he’s had to work hard at to master. No matter what his bliss is, it should be incorporated into his everyday life.