Why is building and being able to maintain high self-esteem so important?
A high opinion about yourself and who you are and what you do and basically a love for yourself is also one of the things that people often miss or have too little of in today’s society. The last thing you need is to be with someone who makes it even more difficult to maintain a good outlook on life. In other words, please stay away from these 10 self-esteem burglars.
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It’s difficult enough to maintain healthy self-esteem in today’s society. The last thing you need is to be with someone who makes it even more difficult to maintain a good outlook on life. In other words, please stay away from these 10 self-esteem burglars.
1. The Narcissist
Nothing is ever the narcissist’s fault. The one person who will always be at fault for everything that goes wrong with their life is you. Forget it!
2. The Guilt Monger
Some people have learned to control their relationships through guilt. The guiltier you feel about what you are not doing for them, the more effort you will put into giving them exactly what they want. They want complete control over you and the relationship. A good relationship needs to be 50/50, so ditch the guilt monger before you waste more effort on them.
3. The Fault Finder
They find everything that’s “wrong” with you and then point it all out as often and loud as they can. There is actually nothing wrong with having a few faults and insecurities; it is what makes us unique and human. However, if you hang around the fault finder long enough, their constant reminders of your faults will eventually make you start to doubt yourself in a very big way.
A positive partner makes you feel positive. But if you’re dating a grump, it’s hard to be positive about anything. With someone who hates the world, hates life, and perpetually gets up on the wrong side of the bed every morning? Dump them! How can you feel good about the same life they hate so much?
5. The Scorekeeper
Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner keeps score of every bad thing you’ve ever done, and then brings the bad things up in order to get the upper hand during an argument or disagreement? You are being manipulated by a person who has no interest in maintaining an equal partnership with you.
6. The Hostage Taker
When a partner is constantly holding their love over your head in order to keep you in line, then that just isn’t love anymore. Threatening to end the relationship unless you do exactly what they say is one of the worst forms of manipulation, and if that is how they plan to keep you over the long haul, you’d be much happier with someone who understands the value of a good relationship.
7. The Ex Evaluator
Some partners compare you to other lovers. This approach to a relationship is not only devastating to your self-esteem, but to the possibility of ever building any trust or security in your relationship. If all those other people were so great, why don’t they just go back to them and leave you alone?
8. The Misery Junkie
If you have a partner who gets a thrill from throwing you on a roller-coaster ride of emotions, you’re life is (and will always be) miserable. One minute they are happy in love. The next they are completely over you. This is a relationship that you are just never going to want to be a part of.
9. The Cheater
Yes, it is possible that your cheating partner loves you. But if they don’t love you enough to give you the kind of respect you deserve, then I would say they just don’t love you enough.
10. The Competitor
The one person you shouldn’t compete with is your partner. If you feel like you have to live in their shadow for the sake of your relationships, get out! And while they may seem more than happy to help you up every time you purposely fall short to keep the peace in the house, you’d actually be better off living alone as your own champion.